Monday, 7 January 2013
Day 149 – Self Confidence and Trust
We can see from the dictionary definition (provided below) that confidence can, for explanation purposes, be simplified to be a matter of trust. Trust that is placed in something, someone or oneself. Therefore we can say that, for a person to have confidence, one must have trust. So to understand confidence, we must first investigate trust…
We can see that our participation within this world functions within this very principle of trust, in duality to its polar opposite - distrust. Additionally, there must exist a relationship or an agreement between two parties for trust to be established. For a person to trust one, another must be considered less, or ‘un-trustworthy’.
The existence of trust if facilitated by, and has in fact created distrust, as one cannot exist without the other – because if distrust did not exist, there would be no need for trust, as all would be equally ‘trustworthy’, and so not defined within the context of trust/distrust.
Interestingly, due to the fact that we have not understood this very simple point, we have created systems (legal, financial, political etc.) in which everyone is conveniently ‘educated’ to accept as the basis of trust, and thus are generally accepted as trustworthy – These systems however, rather than supporting the equal trustworthiness of all, imitate, replace, and subvert the actual inherent trustworthiness of all, through perpetuating, and repeatedly re-iterating the dualistic system of trust/distrust. All to preserve and maintain power and control, and so no one ever questions or understands this of course.
Religion is another system which would have us believe that there exists some external god out there wanting us to place trust in it/him/her. That idea is endlessly debatable, and there is absolutely no credibility as to it’s validity, as there is no physical point of cross-reference – See for yourself, religion serves no physical purpose other than to delude man, as anyone can create their mind’s wildest fantasy to serve nothing but their own fear, desire for revenge, and self-interest.
So what can be trusted?… and how can we quantify, or measure trust? How can we know for certain if one or another is trustworthy?
Many would say “oh I trust so and so… he/she is my husband/wife/friend”. This type of relationship trust is limited, because, no matter how much we want to believe and place our trust in that person, we do not fully know and understand what is existent within them, as their entire life experience. Due to the nature of this type of trust as having a massive ‘unknown’ factor, this type of relationship trust is not measurable or verifiable, and thus cannot be considered real trust… as it only appears to be real to a person who does not understand or realize the existence of actual, measurable trust!
Therefore we can conclude that relationship trust is not real trust, it is rather a false measure of trust, an imposter, which makes it in its very nature, absolutely untrustworthy, as it is often formed out of fear of survival, greed, or simply self-interest.
Many people are ‘confident’ in their appearance. This is based on the beauty system, as a system of comparison and judgement, and therefore just another belief system which creates conflict and distrust.
So what exactly is real, measurable trust… or trustworthiness? Actual trust is not based on the starting point of greed, fear, or selfish desire. Actual trust is created within oneself, as Self-trust, through self-realization, and understanding of who one really is, as an Equal participant within our shared physical reality.
It is only when one fully understand ones responsibility to live according to the principle of what is best for all, that one can realize themselves and change themselves to stop living in self-interest. This is the development, or creation of Self-trust. This Self-trust is based on an agreement with self in self-honesty, opposed to an external relationship, and it is the only real trust that is absolutely trustworthy, as it is measurable.
Is any form of confidence then real, if you don’t know yourself, or if you don’t understand your reality? How then can you trust anyone…? How can you even trust yourself?
Man know thyself.
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1. Trust or faith in a person or thing.
2. A trusting relationship: I took them into my confidence.
3.a. That which is confided; a secret: A friend does not betray confidences.
b. A feeling of assurance that a confidant will keep a secret: I am telling you this in strict confidence.
4. A feeling of assurance, especially of self-assurance.
5. The state or quality of being certain
1. Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.
2. Custody; care.
3. Something committed into the care of another; charge.
a. The condition and resulting obligation of having confidence placed in one: violated a public trust.
b. One in which confidence is placed.
5. Reliance on something in the future; hope.
6. Reliance on the intention and ability of a purchaser to pay in the future; credit.